My Medical Skills Give Me Experience Points

Chapter 1174: Chapter 464: Why Male Doctors Stay Single, Learning Medicine from the Best

Most doctors are quite attentive to protecting their families, especially when it comes to privacy. It’s rare for family members to visit the hospital workspaces, and even when they do, it’s usually for medical treatment.

If you don’t voluntarily tell outsiders, most people wouldn’t have a clue that someone is the doctor’s spouse or parent.

In short, in this era of tense doctor-patient relationships, everyone does their best not to reveal family ties to ensure their family’s safety. Because you never know if a pair of hateful eyes is watching you secretly.

Zhou Can quickly arrived at Cardiothoracic Surgery, initially planning to visit Director Xue Yan, but recalling her husband’s warning, Zhou Can dismissed the idea.

When dealing with some rotten people, there’s no need to confront them directly.

"Miss Qin, do you know where Director Le is?"

Zhou Can asked a nurse at the nursing station.

"He seems to be in Operating Room No. 2, probably the surgery is about to end. You could wait here for him, Dr. Zhou."

The nurse was in her twenties, blossoming with youth and beauty.

For promising and handsome young men like Zhou Can, they are often quite enthusiastic and proactive.

Only when they encounter someone unattractive or of ordinary potential, do they act like proud swans, barely paying attention.

"No, no, I’ll go take a look at the operating room! I have something else to do later! Goodbye!"

Zhou Can waved to the enthusiastic nurse.

The hospital never had a rule prohibiting staff from dating. As long as you’re capable, doctors marrying nurses, or doctors marrying doctors, are both possible.

But to be blunt, nowadays the number of women is less than men, plus the fact that women earn a decent living and can survive well without relying on men. Many female nurses are unwilling to marry male doctors.

To outsiders, male doctors appear to have stable jobs, high income, high social status, and are considered quality candidates.

However, nurses within the large hospital system know very well how much ordinary doctors have to endure. Not to mention the overtime alone is enough to make them shy away.

After getting married, if the wife falls ill, the doctor is needed at the hospital to treat other patients and can’t manage to look after the wife at home.

It usually ends with advising the wife to take some medicine, drink plenty of warm water, and rest well at home.

The same applies when they have kids in the future.

One nurse married to a doctor decisively chose divorce after two years of marriage.

She tearfully complained to reporters that when the toilet was clogged, she had to figure it out herself. When the faucet broke, she had to find a way herself. Falling ill and being bedridden, she had to endure it alone; when her husband had to work overtime, there wasn’t even a phone call or a text message to check on her.

After their child was born, she thought the situation would improve.

However, one night, the child had a high fever, and her husband happened to have a night shift that day.

The nurse made over a dozen calls to her husband, none of which were answered.

She took care of the child alone, not even having a moment to close her eyes.

By this time, she was extremely exhausted and weary.

She desperately wished her husband could be there to help shoulder some responsibilities.

In the end, she had to drag her tired body, taking the child alone to the hospital for emergency care. Taxis were hard to get at night, and it was raining heavily. She struggled to reach the hospital, holding the child tightly.

In her attempt to protect her child from getting wet, her own back had long been soaked by the rain.

Her heart was soaked alongside the rain.

After the child recovered, she directly proposed divorce to her husband.

She candidly expressed to reporters that she deeply regretted marrying a doctor. Any marriage, after the passion and enthusiasm fade, needs to adapt to the ordinary life of daily bread and butter.

The hardships shared by the nurse above are believed to be experienced by many women married to doctors.

She chose to divorce after just two years, which is considered quite fortunate.

Some women are very traditional and absolute in their loyalty to love.

After marriage, even though their husbands often need to work overtime and can rarely take care of home affairs, they persist through gritted teeth. They patiently waited for their husbands to be promoted to a higher title, to move to the next tier, so they no longer have to work night shifts like before.

Moreover, the income increased.

But at this point, the husband followed the pattern of "promote and prosper, neglecting the wife."

He first got involved with a young nurse in the department.

Later, he started flirting with a female medical student under his supervision, ignoring the ethical boundaries between teacher and student, crossing the forbidden line. Even more infuriating, the husband dislikes his wife at home for aging and not being as good as the young and pretty medical student and stubbornly insists on getting a divorce.

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It’s not that every male doctor is irresponsible in marriage, but at least a portion is like this.

Throughout the medical student, residency training, resident doctor stages, his income is low, and he’s too busy to care for the family. Once he ascends to an attending, or even a senior level, with higher income and less demanding work, he chooses not to return home, indulging in the vibrant world beyond.

Marrying a male doctor can be a gamble.

Unless you have great confidence in his character and loyalty, it’s wise to prepare for the worst.

Today’s female nurses are not the naive nursing school students of the past; reputable hospitals basically require a bachelor’s degree. With higher education, these nurses have rather high standards when choosing a partner.

They aren’t interested in ordinary male doctors.

This is why many male doctors remain single well into their thirties. Many assume they are clueless about romance, only knowing how to treat patients, perform surgeries, and write papers, seeming like blocks of wood.